Everything has two sides of story. Is your choice to take the good or bad side. For instance, you might thought no one support you in whatever you are doing but another point of view, you get to learn to be independent. Why do we have to rely on people when we can do it ourself? Not getting support is awful. But, treating ourself bad is even more awful. Learning to take things from the good side. Be positive ain't the same with putting hopes on something. For instances, when we don't have much hope on it, we can take it positively instead. I used to have hopes after hopes, but not all will come true. Accept what has been given and be grateful.